Often we write people off who behave in these ways as "having issues". We tell them to stop doing it and to grow up. Criticizing them will not help them grow. These behaviors are a cry for help that all too often we ignore.
Once recognized, the solution is simple. If someone doesn't feel understood then listen by putting yourself into their shoes. If they aren't seeing the impact of their actions, hear them out and then share your perspective. If they don't feel accepted, share God's love for them and invite them to serve in some capacity, accepting them as a person, without judgement or criticism (which doesn't mean you agree with or condone their actions). If someone is grieving, have compassion on them, be there for them, and listen.
The post on Growing in Love provides a complete framework for helping them to grow in love.
To better understand what listening is, see Listening 101.
If we better interpret behavior, we can make a huge difference in helping people to grow in happiness.
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