My previous post of "Life is 10% of What Happens to Me and 90% of How I React to It" described TheWork.com from Byron Katie. Here are my own "Inquiry" questions based on the questions from TheWork.com. I came up with them to help make them conversation friendly, require less explaining, and take less time.
I highly recommend having someone who is familiar with the process walk you through it for at least the first few times. Their most important job is to hold you to each question until you've fully answered it.
1: What is causing you suffering, that should not be the case? (1 concise sentence)
2: If you could just snap your fingers, how would you like them to change (how they think, talk, feel and act)? (at least a paragraph) 3: From 1 to 10 how confident are you that it is absolutely true? 4: How complete is your perspective of the whole picture? (What percentage is your story of the full and clear picture? How complete is this story.) 5: How is the story affecting you (including how you see/treat them, see/treat yourself, and see your world and future)? (at least a paragraph) 6: If you (hypothetically) lost the ability to see it that way, how would you be? (at least a paragraph) 7: Re-read #5 and #6 and ask: Is there any reason to hold onto that story? 8: How is the advice from #2 true after replacing them with you? 9: If you step back, how is the advice from #2 true after swapping you and them? 10: In what ways have they already done the advice from #2 (and/or opposite of #1)? 11: What is within your control to significantly improve your peace and happiness about this? (at least a paragraph)
Remember the realms of power.
See my favorite quotes from Byron Katie.
You can contact me if you'd like my help in doing this.
Tip for finding a topic:
* What are you unhappy about?
* On a scale from 1 to 10 how happy are you? What happened that keeps you from being at a 10?
* What is your biggest fear?
* Where is love needed in your life? Why?
Tip when helping someone do this who is going on tangents:
Stop them and explain how the ego needs to keep telling the story. The real answers have a hard time getting through when the ego keeps talking.
